chevalier26

chevalier26 , 2 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Another day of being told I’m “British” and “don’t understand U.S. weather” on social media because I don’t enjoy summer time and temps above about 72°F because of sensory issues. Have to school them right back by telling them I’m from the southern U.S. 😂

chevalier26 OP , 2 days ago

@punishmenthurts @actuallyautistic They are definitely “something”, not sure what though 😂

chevalier26 OP , 2 days ago

@Aerliss @actuallyautistic Even the winters where I live are sometimes too much for me. Every January and February we will get an odd few days where the high is between 70-80°F 🥴. And even on “typical” winter days the high temp hovers in the 40s.

chevalier26 , 10 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Does anyone else find that their music taste is extremely unconventional? I can enjoy most types of music with others, but when I'm alone I listen to stuff that most people would never listen to. Like historical folk songs, military marches, courtly dance music, sea shanties, etc.

I enjoy other music too but I feel like the above categories are things I am "ashamed" to play around others. Idk if that makes sense lol.

chevalier26 OP , 4 days ago

@krafty @actuallyautistic Me too! This song has been on repeat for me lately. I like Martin Carthy's version a lot: https://youtu.be/kv98UySDhs0?si=Y9Q5PpiI5juFODev

chevalier26 , 5 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic How did y'all discover which parts of yourself were masking and which parts are genuine? Or, figuring out when you are masking in the moment it happens? Sometimes I feel off in certain scenarios but I can never pinpoint what is masking and what isn't. Any advice or resources would be appreciated!

chevalier26 OP , 4 days ago

@Zumbador @actuallyautistic Oof, pretending to agree when I don't is a huge one for me and is painful like you said. Not fun lol.

chevalier26 , 4 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Wish more YouTubers and content creators added a toggle to their videos that could switch off background music. Idk about y'all, but so many videos have added music that is unnecessary, distracting, and overstimulating.

I have seen videos on YouTube where the closed captions settings have been programmed with a separate audio track with no commentary, so I know it can be done! Would probably be so helpful for so many people!

chevalier26 OP , 4 days ago

@EVDHmn @actuallyautistic A lot of the autistic YouTubers I watch already create content with no background music.

Other than that, I don't think there are any specific YouTubers, but generally a lot of gaming and reaction video/commentary content includes a lot of background music.

Most of the time it doesn't bother me (like if it's quiet piano music), but if it's overly loud it can start to grate my nerves.

chevalier26 OP , 4 days ago

@matty @actuallyautistic Usually background music doesn't bother me unless it's an overused song (like in Instagram reels, TikToks, YouTube shorts, etc.). Quiet, calm music in long-form videos is great and sometimes even preferable to no music at all in certain scenarios.

But yeah I think the short-form content having overused background music is what annoys me. It's completely unnecessary but is added in as a way to farm views and likes.

chevalier26 OP , 4 days ago

@EVDHmn @actuallyautistic For example, Chris from the channel Chris and Debby does a great job of making "no music" versions of his videos, like this one: https://youtu.be/87CO8ldUv3I?si=iVgKRDVw1g5_Jgr3

olena , 5 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

“Don’t assume, ask” - is the approach I share. However, there are many people to whom asking seems like something rude and inappropriate. And those people would assume.
The thing is, I am one of those people that usually can’t be accurately assumed: if you’d think a person that does this and this would also do that, the one who likes this and this would hate that and so on - most probably, I’d not follow that pattern. For that very reason I’ve been called ‘eclectic’, or less politely - ‘messy’, ‘illogical’, and all sorts of weird - most of my life, and for that very reason some people are kinda afraid of me: they can’t predict because their assumptions aren’t correct.
In turn, for me it’s very frustrating/confusing to see that someone is offended by me asking directly instead of assuming because all I want is to avoid any misunderstanding and clarify things.
I feel like #AuDHD is quite an eclectic thing per se(due to some #autism aspects looking from a certain point of view as opposite to those of #ADHD), so maybe that is the key to me being so, well, contradictory in eyes of other people.
I wonder, if that asking is just #autistic desire to have things clear and precise, or assuming/asking divide does not correspond to the NT/ND one
#neurodivergent
@actuallyautistic

chevalier26 , 5 days ago

@pathfinder @olena @actuallyautistic I feel like I am simultaneously hard to read and predictable, but in different areas. If I asked my friend to guess what I would most likely eat for lunch tomorrow, they would be correct 90% of the time, but if I asked them what music I was listening to right now, they would get it wrong 90% of the time. Idk how to explain it.

chevalier26 , 9 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Do any of y'all have EXTREME heat intolerance? It's like the older I get the more I can't put up with hot weather. I've always been very "hot-natured," prefer winter over summer, etc. but this year I think my intolerance has been the worst yet. Friends are telling me how it's peak summer weather (90 degrees is comfortable?!?) meanwhile I start sweating when it's 70+ degrees Fahrenheit outside. What gives?

chevalier26 OP , 5 days ago

@arisummerland @actuallyautistic Great news! My mom found a vent guard so I'm finally able to redirect all the cold air coming through my bedroom vent. I think all the cold air was being trapped under my bed, and that's why my room always felt stuffy, not because the vent was clogged. It's not even been 10 minutes and I already feel a substantial difference in the temperature.

chevalier26 , 6 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Another vent incoming about this faculty training course:

The instructions for everything are SO VAGUE! And on top of that, the tutorials for using the programs in Canvas, like SpeedGrader for grading assignments, don't even match how the programs look on my own laptop. I am, quite literally, floundering. Aye, aye, aye... :blobugh:

chevalier26 OP , 6 days ago

@actuallyautistic I am literally forced to delay my completion of this course because someone in admin didn't think about possible Canvas updates or software changes between when the tutorials were published and when the rest of the applicants would watch them. FWIW, the training videos are all from 2020. Sigh.

chevalier26 , 7 days ago to ActuallyAutistic group

@actuallyautistic #actuallyautistic Do y'all know if it's an autistic trait to be super skeptical of stuff? Like, for example, my parents watch some questionable "health" people on YouTube, and when they show me a video from said people, I can tell IMMEDIATELY that they are grifters in it for money. Idk what gives it away but it's like a flashing warning sign in my brain.

I wonder if it has to do with social influence and the effects of charisma/agreeableness that NDs might not fall for.

chevalier26 OP , 7 days ago

@erosdiscordia @actuallyautistic Yes!!

chevalier26 OP , 7 days ago

@actuallyautistic Oh my goodness 🤦‍♀️my mom just played this video for my dad and grandparents acting like it was legit information: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C7nWqALNI2n/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

The Puss Caterpillar is not a "bioweapon," but a native caterpillar to the eastern and southern United States and parts of Central and South America. It is literally a native species. Takes less than 30 seconds to find this out. Why fearmonger?

chevalier26 OP , 7 days ago

@maggiejk @actuallyautistic Interesting theory! I think that could be a part of it for sure.

chevalier26 OP , 7 days ago

@maggiejk @actuallyautistic The classic "common sense isn't common" scenario lol. For what it's worth, my parents are also the type of people who HEAVILY doubt anything mental health related, including autism and ADHD. So anytime I try to discuss it or the possibility of me having autism with them, they shut me down immediately. So it goes...

chevalier26 OP , 7 days ago

@Greenseer @maggiejk @samhainnight @actuallyautistic Yes!! I despise peer pressure, but especially "positive" peer pressure. I don't care if my friends "really want me to go to that football game," I know I will get overstimulated and I'm going to stand my ground! And guess what? I never have the regret everyone tries to guilt trip me about.