Depends on the cat. Surely true for a bonded pair like this, but I had one cat who for the remaining ~10 years of her life never got past the grudging acceptance stage when we adopted a second, then a third. That second cat reacted similarly when another cat joined the household years later.
Having known multiple trans people and heard them talk about the arguments for and against early disclosure: Fear.
They may not be public about their status, and fear exposure to family or coworkers seeing their public profile.
They may fear harassment from transphobes. This could range from DM accusations of pedophilia to religious screeds to doxxing to death threats.
They may be trying to avoid "chasers." There are some people for whom a trans body (particularly a transfem body) is a fetish, who don't actually care about the person inside. Plenty of transpeople don't appreciate that kind of attention.
Fear of rejection. They may believe that nobody will respond if they're open about not being cis.
Also two less fear-related (and less common) possibilities:
Ideology. To some people, specifying "transman" or "transwoman" reinforces a social distinction they find invalidating or don't accept. How many profiles have you seen that specify themselves as "cisman" or "ciswoman"? For these people, it's a way of rejecting cisgender normativity.
Maybe they just aren't ready to talk about their genitals yet, or have their first conversation be about their surgical plans or history. Not only can get really repetitive having that be the first conversation with every single match, it means they don't get any of the information they're looking for about a potential partner until much later in the process and have to invest a lot of their own time up front. Just like you want the salient information you care about early on, so do they.
But she has no way to know that, and a lifetime of evidence to suggest that your attitude isn't the universal male perspective. Since she doesn't know you personally, the risk outweighs whatever benefit she gets from the high five.
The Israeli military had US support in rescuing four captives from Gaza in a "complex daytime operation" in Nuseirat that killed over 200 Palestinians....
It's called Survivor's Guilt. It may not be rational, but emotions often aren't. And yes, they're likely to wind up with it for both surviving the October 7th raid AND for the deaths in the raid that freed them. Along with all sorts of other trauma related mental health issues.
Netanyahu Blasts Biden Admin For ‘Withholding’ Weapons From Israel In Harshest Criticism Yet: ‘Inconceivable’ ( www.forbes.com )
Automaker introduces world's largest electric motorcycle with impressive range — and it could revolutionize the industry ( www.thecooldown.com )
Inseparable brothers. We went to adopt one and came back with both. ( lemmy.ca )
Fenn and Sudo. (Yes. I am nerd and Sudo is "my" kitty.)
This new dating app will use facial recognition technology to exclude trans women ( www.lgbtqnation.com )
Have you got any weird questions for the opposite gender?
That's it
US involved in Israeli operation in Nuseirat that killed over 200 Palestinians ( www.middleeasteye.net )
The Israeli military had US support in rescuing four captives from Gaza in a "complex daytime operation" in Nuseirat that killed over 200 Palestinians....