Oszilloraptor

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she/they, non-binary transfeminine individual based in Berlin

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Oszilloraptor ,

That's survivorship bias.

There was a time when humans built wineries everywhere and hoped to attract vineyards.

Nowadays, you only see those that attracted one, as all other wineries gave up centuries ago

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    Oszilloraptor ,

    Yes, but it's a bit hard to get; even in countries that try to improve trans-care rather than reduce it.

    There are just so many therapists; the waiting lists are sometimes simply closed because they stretch years.

    For many people, these hormones mean the difference between a livable life and extreme dysphoria, depression and suicidality.

    If they could get them on the regular way, they would. But the regular way is often full of problems. So some people have to fall back to just do it themself.

    I even heard of doctors who do some medical checks under the counter to ensure everything is done as safe as possible (but aren't able to prescribe hormones themself without prior psychotherapeutical indication)

    So; your point would be valid in theory,
    but unfortunately for many trans-people, it's the only way to get their possibly life-saving medication.

    Oszilloraptor , (edited )

    I don't disagree with the point that it shouldn't need to be this way.

    But it is what it is; and it's live saving medication that has to come from somewhere.

    People are fighting to tackle the problem officially; but they also have to somehow live in the meantime.

    Almost all trans people would prefer a prescription and medical supervision above having to pay themself and guesstimate the doses without proper bloodwork. But some just don't have any alternatives.

    And to be clear: I will always recommend people to try the official way first. local transpersons that asked me for advice all got a "I can help you get therapy; I can help you to skip therapy and go the indication route; I can reluctantly help you skip indication and go the informed-consent-route without psychotherapists but still medical supervision, even tho I really discourage that unless your transidentity is obvious since many years; but I will not help you to get DIY (without medical supervision) unless you tried the official approaches, sorry".

    But for some people, there is no other option than DIY. Getting a place for therapy can be really hard, and some countries have no alternative routes to get a prescription with medical supervision without going through years of therapy first.

    (Btw, I don't know how the laws are in the UK. I'm from germany. But the problem is the same everywhere. I got lucky to be able to get a prescription, tho; but I know a few people that weren't)

    Oszilloraptor ,

    In another comment you clearly stated that femboys are not the same thing as trans.

    And now you want to push the transfem label onto a non-afab person just because they admit to wear gender-non-conforming clothes?

    Oszilloraptor ,

    (un)fortunately HRT does not remove your beard ;)

    Wanna be a beautiful girl with a wonderful shiny beard?

    There is a chance!

    (Altho having specific physical goals in mind on HRT is more a gamble; and obviously (unfortunately, but it is what it is) a beard on a girl will often lead to weird looks and remarks.)

    Oszilloraptor , (edited )

    Baby-Transfem here, started HRT literally last week:

    Until last friday I was suicidal, constantly depressed and full of self-hate I couldn't understand.

    Since I got my first dose estrogen my mental health drastically improved (as did some other hormone-related body functions that only need the hormones in my blood but not necessarily a prolonged exposure).

    I learned from my doc that some transpersons have a brain structure of their non-assigned sex and then show exactly my pattern of relief; meaning my brain was actually born to be estrogen- instead of testosterone-dominated.
    (which seems to be based on the hormones oned mom exposed one during 3-4th and 10-14th week of infancy. One periods influences the gender of the brain, the other the sex of the general body)

    So while I see where you are coming from, and I heavily prepare myself for all the sexism that will probably bring me back to earth as soon as I visually feminize; I can attest that HRT improved both drastically for me (for now)

    Oszilloraptor ,

    This is a meme about trans women, please don't conflate us with femboys.

    Sounds for me like:

    "femboys exist, but we are not the same"; not "femboys do not exist. They're just in denial"

    (and I do agree with the first; not with the second)

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    Oszilloraptor ,

    Probably AuDHD (both)

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