I live in Florida and am interested into meeting people that sail with the intent to be a hand on a sailboat for the experience and training. I know nothing about sailing nor do I know anyone that is into it. How can I get into the scene to meet people and feel things out?
Ok, so one of the bigger problems I see on Lemmy is the fact that I subscribe to dozens of different communities, but my feed is always the same. News news news technology technology technology....
It would be cool if you could make your own tabs, so that everytime you subscribe to a community, you can go down a checklist of tabs you created, picking ones you think that belongs to.
Fo now, I guess the work around is to have several usernames divided by categories, but that seems cumbersome and disjonted.
Same! I looked into it myself, and it's nearly impossible to pull off. Since I have no experience sailing, it would take me at least 2 yrs of training. I'd have to start off by volunteering as a hand on someone else's sailboat. I'd also have to get a dingy to practice on.
Eventually, I'd need to find a reliable person that would also like to try this adventure out, is dedicated enough to develop the skills necessary, has the financial means to pull it off, and isn't tied down by other responsibilities (eg house, family, etc.). We'd also need to get along extraordinarily well since we'll be together for ~2 yrs in a small space and deciding where to go and what to do jointly.
Then, we'd need to drop ~$80k on a sailboat and another ~$20k on renovating it. Once that's completed, we'd have to take a few shorter trips to test it out, such as sailing around the Caribbean.
Lastly, once underway, things could still get pretty bad. Mechanical issues aside, we'd have to worry about safety out in the open ocean. There could be violent assailants or storms. There could also be political unrest of unwelcoming area where we dock and resupply.
Basically, this adventure is really difficult to pull off because it's not just sailing and living on a boat. There's a lot more to consider.
Good idea! I have been at sea for over a month at a time, but that was with the Navy, so definitely not the same as sailing for pleasure. I know I really liked the peace of the sea. I can't imagine how much nicer it is with the freedom to go anywhere there is a shore.
I remember hearing that American service members are by far the best fed of all countries since WWII.
Along with resource richness, I think it's important to note how USA's geography also makes it extraordinarily safe from invasion. It is flanked by two oceans with die hard allies as neighbors to the North and South. Anyone that wants to invade USA would have to make an impossible amphibious landing or super-blitz through Canada or Mexico. Both of those options are nearly impossible. The entire world vs North America might not even he able to pull that off. Then, once the invaders get to the continental USA, they would have to deal the most possibly armed insurgency due to the culture's obsession with firearms. So, the only way the USA could be militarily taken over is by near complete destruction of its population via long-range missiles. This disregards the USA's vastly superior military power. The USA has more aircraft carriers than the next 7 countries combined and each one is technologically superior as well.
With that in mind, the USA didn't have to direct considerable economic efforts to protecting its homeland, while knowing that it's economic production would go mostly unharmed. In contrast, the Soviet's were scorching their own production centers just so the enemy wouldn't acquire them.
Additionally, the USA has the most expansive freight rail system and the Mississippi River allows for easy and efficient shipping of resources, especially from the food production area (eg the Bread Basket). So not only can the USA produce lots of food without having to worry much about protecting that, but it can also easily transport the food to other locations efficiently. When it comes to food and defense, the USA is overpowered af.
I first joined Lemmy back during the big Reddit exodus of last year. I like many others wanted an alternative to Reddit, and I thought that this might've been the one. I made two accounts, one on lemmy.world and another on sh.itjust.works, in the June of last year that I used on and off for about 4 months....
I like Lemmy especially because it has not gone mainstream. I was already disliking Reddit around 2016/7 and tried to find alternatives, but nothing was good enough for me. Around 2018/9, the porn subs got pretty popular, then WallStreetBets. That brought on a massive amount of users, and the Reddit I joined in 2011 was definitely gone.
It used to be interesting, unique, and respectful.It became repetitive, predictably standard, and rude. Many subs function as low-key advertising or propaganda without users awareness. It was a hive mind. I was wanting to leave, and luckily the API fiasco happened so that I was able to find a new place.
I like it small like it is now. Users feel more familiar. Also, I love the idea of instances. If one instance has a shitty community on a topic you like, then find a community on a different instance. There's none of that BS where mods control an entire topic. Maybe there are a lot of topics that aren't popular here, so that sucks. Still, it's no worse than reddit with 1+ million people all saying the same crap I don't vibe with on a topic.
I just can't fathom how a woman can overpower a man in that manner. Even if a woman is physically stronger than the man. If a man really doesn't want to, how could she even make him erect by force, let alone force it inside her?...
I think most female to male abuse comes in the form of emotional coercion. So, something like, if the guy doesn't have sex with her how she wants, there will be consequences. Sometimes they're explicit, such as when she actually says it openly. Other times, she communicates it implicitly for plausible deniability. For example, every time a guy is not interested in the moment, she does something that hurts him soon after. This could be from throwing a fit about some regular chore, to shaming them to their friends, to actively seeking attention from or cheating with other men.
I knew a girl that would tell everyone she was being abused before her boyfriend even knew it was happening. She would ask everyone to not say anything because she was scared he would abuse her more. She would also do things to make him angry in public so people would think he had an anger problem. People would start treating the boyfriend like shit, so he would start being isolated, which allowed her to abuse him more. If the boyfriend came out seeking help, no one would believe him and gaslight him further. The girl even went as far as telling relationship therapists that he was abusing her so that he had no escape while she now how documentation that he was abusing her. The girl was a completely deranged psychopath that did this with all her boyfriends. Of course, her friends were similar. One of her friend's boyfriends committed suicide after they had an argument. The girl then milked that for pity points every chance she got.
I really advise everyone to learn about relationship abuse and vulnerable narcissists. They're incredibly sneaky and brutally perverse, and anyone can fall for one. It takes a while for even trained relationship abuse therapists to catch on to them. Look it up on YouTube. There are many therapists and survivors that share their stories and guidance.
This is based off of my conclusions from watching Narcos. The narcotraffickers in Colombia were terrified of being extradited to the US because they knew they would never be able to break out of prison, whereas they were certain that they could strong arm their way out of any Colombian corrections facilities. Their methods in...
Let's start with me: The person posting this just doesn't know or acknowledge, that autistic people aren't violent (as sociopaths also aren't). I don't even understand this. The author actively sabotages autistic rights movements to gain a small advantage in sociopath advocacy....
Thanks! Yeah, I impulsively rejected that stance, since in my experience and from what I know about autism, I would have assumed lower rates of crime among us. Particularly, autistic people tend to be more justice-oriented and rules-based than others, so I would assume that would lead to lower rates of crime. However, I DDG'd to see if I could find anything. According to this Psychology Today article that reports on study, autism actually served as a protective factor among those with conduct disorder and ADHD. This literature review also points to lower rates of crime among the autistic population.
Although Lemmy's userbase is quite large,it still is small enough that I do often see the same people in comment sections. It feels though, that I should recognise more names, because I can only remember around 5 individual ones.
I was on Buspar for about 2 months. Completely got rid of anxiety for me. That's when I learned that anxiety was an important motivation for me because I stopped caring about everything so much, that I started to let everything go. It wasnt that I was stupid or emotionally blunted. I just had absolutely no anxiety to motivate me to get anything done.
A thing only exists if I know it exists. I experience good days and bad days but I do the best I can to keep moving forward despite this flaw. I don't have any wisdom to share but I hope y'all have a nice day 😊
I have seen multiple times on Lemmy that the IRS wants people to report income from illegal means and that they don't care to bust someone for it. For example, an illicit drug dealer is expected by the IRS to report their drug sale revenue without having to worry about being caught for drug dealing....
Finally found the man I thought I would marry, but the breakup came out of nowhere and I'm struggling to cope. What are the ways you've dealt with heartbreak in the past?
Ugh, heartache is literally painful. I'm sorry you are going through that.
For me, getting iver someone has been a multi-pronged approach.
Accept that I'm going to feel grief for a while...at least a few months. That's okay and normal. Don't fight it, don't get mad at it. Just notice it and ride it out. Your brain has to severe the neural networks that were dedicated to him, while rebuilding new ones. This is a process that takes a while.
Start connecting with friends that are healthy. They can be a nice source of validation, connection, and support.
Work on a new project to have a focus. This can help in those moments where I'm sitting around ruminating with nothing to do or no desire to do anything. Even if I'm ruminating while doing the project, at least I'll something to show for it when it's over.
Start a new hobby to define myself apart from the relationship. I'm going to be a new person.
When ready, start throwing out all of their stuff. I even get rid of gifts. If it reminds me of then when I look at it, it's gone.
Things will get easier as you stop thinking about them slowly over the next dew weeks to months. Eventually, they become someone that you used to know with no real meaning other than the lessons you learned from that experience.
I can actually vibe quite bigly and be very animated/engaged, but at the end of the day, I am an introvert, and a certain amount of mental recharge time is absolutely 100% required or my mind will stop working right....
I 💯% need my alone time to recharge, or I start falling apart. Things that can happen if I'm don't get quiet alone time:
irritability
careless injuries, including broken bones
lack of engagement in anything enjoyable
inability to think
not completing any responsibilities (eg bills, work, etc.)
not completing activities of daily living
going mute
drinking excessively
verbally snapping at someone or insulting them
crying
seeing everything and everyone as a threat
complete shutdown or even meltdown
My most reliable solution in social situations has been going to the bathroom. There must be soooo many people that think I constantly have diarrhea because I go to the bathroom that often, sometimes for up to 30 mins a session. I love how the bathroom fan's noise drowns out everything else. If I can still hear people outside, then the bathroom break doesn't work, so I might go outside or to my car.
It's not that people are annoying or I don't like them. I just need solitary silence to process the ideas on my waitlist or allow my mind to focus on what it wants without interruption to recharge. It's almost like sleep. If I don't get it, I fall apart.
Occasionally I have these days where I don't feel like doing work or chores. So I'm thinking, why not just enjoy myself, do something that interests me?...
I have those periods. I think of them as autistic shutdowns. For me, they happen when I've been overwhelmed by too much stress, interruptions, demands, or sensory overload.
I've accepted that I'm never going to be normal, and I've stopped trying. Instead, I find people and places where I can be my abnormal self freely because I have every right to exist how I want as long as I'm not hurting others. Those people that like to throw shame around, whether explicit by saying it or implicit through gestures, can dump it on someone else. Leave me out of that.
Normal people maintain stability. We shake things up. Play your part. Share minute details. Create art. Feel the vibration of life. You be you, booboo ❤️
How can I get into the sailing scene?
I live in Florida and am interested into meeting people that sail with the intent to be a hand on a sailboat for the experience and training. I know nothing about sailing nor do I know anyone that is into it. How can I get into the scene to meet people and feel things out?
I just had an idea that people smarter than me have probably had long before I heard of Lemmy.....but I don't see it implemented, so I'm sharing it anyways!!!
Ok, so one of the bigger problems I see on Lemmy is the fact that I subscribe to dozens of different communities, but my feed is always the same. News news news technology technology technology....
What are the crazy adventures you want to try in your life?
The US population only accounts for 4.2% of the world.
Lemmy is a failed Reddit alternative
I first joined Lemmy back during the big Reddit exodus of last year. I like many others wanted an alternative to Reddit, and I thought that this might've been the one. I made two accounts, one on lemmy.world and another on sh.itjust.works, in the June of last year that I used on and off for about 4 months....
18+ Female-to-male rape, (how) does it happen without roofies?
I just can't fathom how a woman can overpower a man in that manner. Even if a woman is physically stronger than the man. If a man really doesn't want to, how could she even make him erect by force, let alone force it inside her?...
18+ it is kinda crazy "fuck this shit" hasn't become a common acronym yet
Wtf is that about?
Why was the American federal corrections system harder to escape compared to Colombia's?
This is based off of my conclusions from watching Narcos. The narcotraffickers in Colombia were terrified of being extradited to the US because they knew they would never be able to break out of prison, whereas they were certain that they could strong arm their way out of any Colombian corrections facilities. Their methods in...
18+ What do you think of this? ( www.sociopathworld.com )
Let's start with me: The person posting this just doesn't know or acknowledge, that autistic people aren't violent (as sociopaths also aren't). I don't even understand this. The author actively sabotages autistic rights movements to gain a small advantage in sociopath advocacy....
Do you recognise any usernames on Lemmy?
Although Lemmy's userbase is quite large,it still is small enough that I do often see the same people in comment sections. It feels though, that I should recognise more names, because I can only remember around 5 individual ones.
Strattera vs other anti-anxiety meds
My psych wants to take me off Strattera because it isn't helping my ADHD and apparently it's quite expensive....
I suffer from this thing called object permanence
A thing only exists if I know it exists. I experience good days and bad days but I do the best I can to keep moving forward despite this flaw. I don't have any wisdom to share but I hope y'all have a nice day 😊
Is someone safe if they report income from illegal means to the IRS?
I have seen multiple times on Lemmy that the IRS wants people to report income from illegal means and that they don't care to bust someone for it. For example, an illicit drug dealer is expected by the IRS to report their drug sale revenue without having to worry about being caught for drug dealing....
Lemmy, how do you deal with heartbreak?
Finally found the man I thought I would marry, but the breakup came out of nowhere and I'm struggling to cope. What are the ways you've dealt with heartbreak in the past?
being deprived of solitude long enough will eventually kill me.
I can actually vibe quite bigly and be very animated/engaged, but at the end of the day, I am an introvert, and a certain amount of mental recharge time is absolutely 100% required or my mind will stop working right....
Why do teeth don't regenerate?
Seems pretty dumb in our biological design to not be able to regenerate such a functional (and also easily breakable) part of our body.
Need noise cancelling headphones recommendations
I'm really needing new headphones to drown out the noise when I'm out on Public transit or just at home during panic attacks....
Is somebody ever completely demotivated with everything? How do you deal with it?
Occasionally I have these days where I don't feel like doing work or chores. So I'm thinking, why not just enjoy myself, do something that interests me?...
Just got done at the doctor, over explaining everything to the point of them tuning out. I feel like such a loser right now.
Why can't I just be normal. Why do I have to be so zoned in. Why does my attention never go beyond my own skin.
How do you experience eye contact?
I'm still on my journey of understanding the differences between autism and other. My focus today is eye contact, so let's have a discussion!...