Parents with genuinely good looking sons but mostly daughters. How do you make sure they don't build their whole personality around looks?

cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/823828

because it can be if people start to treat them differently when they stop looking appealing they may don't understand it at first and later maybe have a depression and no plan b

Dadifer ,

I try to emphasize the value of hard work more than anything else. I don't say, "wow, you're so smart," I say, "wow, you worked so hard on that." I will say, "you look nice," but more often, "good job working on your hair."

Gradually_Adjusting ,
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My kid is, though it's me saying so, outrageously good looking and already gets silly amounts of attention. I try to give them compliments based on what they do or say, rather than how they look. I talk and listen to them about their interests and thoughts, and the only real feedback or guidance I give on outward appearances is on hygiene and healthy eating.

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