Play better games. The meaningless pursuit of power is rotting your brain. Chasing gear is boring and asks nothing of you.
Get different hobbies. Seriously. Games are rotting your brain. Go see a movie. Go bird watch or something.
Is your representation of other people problem with you really accurate? Reading your post, I don't think anyone could glean what's really going on. Like, how are you negative? Are you verbally berating someone who doesn't heal you in WOW? What questions are you finding acceptable in the LGBTQIA+ groups? Are you finding it reasonable for someone to imply all queer folks are pedos?
I have some experience with this unintended negativity, both from working on my own and helping friends and colleagues (programmers). You care and want to help - feeling positive or neutral, people feel like you are pushing negativity on them.
I'm happy to have a longer discussion with you over DM to help - maybe go through some conversation examples - but for general advice I'd focus on:
Suggesting improvement is criticism.
When talking about non-persons (plan, initiative, item, map, game, ...) people will take it personally if they have any connection to it. E.g. if they found a new gun, they may be excited to test it out. Commenting "x is better" sucks away their happiness. If they have spent a lot of time grinding on something, telling them "you should do Y it is faster" devalues the time they spent and makes them feel stupid.
Most people you interact with don't want to play optimally. Any helpful advice to show them a better way is making them feel worse about the fun they are having.
But! If people ask you for advice explicitly, let loose! What would otherwise be interpreted as negativity, will be taken positively.
Been there, sort of. Lifelong depression does tend to make you "negative" and apparently some people hate that. NTs are not necessarily genius communicators who've worked at it a lot, it's just that most people per definition tend to communicate their preferred/"natural" way. This means that whatever is pissing them off is a) not necessarily wrong, b) not necessarily what/why they think it is, and c) something you'll likely have to work at whether you're "in the wrong" or not.
Kinda depressing, eh?
Unfortunately, sometimes negativity is contagious - sharing something negative with someone is likely to worsen their mood. I won't conjecture why that is - I can only really say that whenever people dump long lists of everything wrong with the world on me, I rarely feel great about it afterwards. Negativity is often warranted, usually realistic, sometimes funny in specific ways etc., but mostly it is still just negativity.
Try and be mindful about this: what are you communicating? Is the content or tone negative? Did you get onto a negative track from something more positive? It is not easy, but you could unironically put up a visible reminder. Don't overdo the self-censoring either, though, that's also not healthy.
Also, are you taking up a lot of space in the conversation relative to others? This can add some friction too if the disparity is big enough. I have been both the loud person (usually from boredom) and the person getting annoyed at someone individually being like 50% of a chat. One man's dead chat is a reasonable level of activity for another, after all.
(All the above is personal experience - reasonably sure the buzzkill stuff is an actual thing but I wasn't able to find a citation or anything.)
Comming from a simular situation. So the best I can give is my own story.
Nearing my 40s. More of a rimworld/minecrafter. Every day off work, every waking minute im in a game.
short version of a long story. I'm experiencing huge life changes. Therapy and friends convinced me to remove one of the major causes of my isolation. And with it going away I saw just how isolated I actually was all this time. I saw how badly it has affected me. The negativity is part of that. It's like a symptom of isolation poisoning.
I feel for the first time that I've wasted so much time. I didn't value making friends or seeking a life parter. Though having made a friend everything changed.
Honestly the desire to play games is fading and it now feels bad to play games all day. Making a real friend who is postive made me want to be more positive i leared that it's a genuinely good feeling.
Isolation is comfortable but it comes at a cost you may not see. It's good to go out and get some perspective occasionally.
I used to be in this pit too (and still dip back in every once in a while)
What helped me was recognizing what “negative Nancy’s” sounded like
What I sounded like. I recorded myself once and just kept tally of all the times I disagreed, argued, or tried to push on something that wasn’t worth pushing about.
Are you feeling depressed? Have you tried talking with professionals or maybe even just your family about it? They likely know you best and will be able to help you out.
Sometimes talkin with a good therapist you can vibe with a bit just helps to see these alternate viewpoints that your cognitive bias won’t/can’t see
Might be worth it. For me, and it seems like maybe you too, getting fed up with myself was the first step to being critical and objective about my choices in behavior. Sometimes being a bit “lighter” about stuff is what you need to help reset. But that can be hard if you’re struggling physically to produce enough serotonin or whatever the ailment might be. Other times it’s just habits you need to change.
Life is too short to be miserable. You will die the same way unless you take action to course correct and start living more brightly.
I'm curious about how this is made. In particular:
At the same time, Tezka is sly and strategic, able to think several steps ahead and use subtle, indirect means to guide individuals towards their goals.
Are these just prompts put into a chat program, or is there something more technical going on? I ask because in my limited understanding of how these things work, they don't really have much in the way of "strategic" intelligence, and are just good at telling you things it thinks you want to hear.
That being said, I am interested in the potential of such a project. I have already used a chat program (a little) for help with some things like this and have found some usefulness in them. Given their limitations however, I do wish to remain cautious. When dealing with this kind of 'help' there is a serious potential for harm, which is true even for human 'assistants'.
There have been some bad situations and there are definitely persons where I am afraid to open up too much and therefore don't do it.
But I like to give people an "Vertrauensvorschuss" (Not sure how to say this in English). Basically I am giving them my trust until they prove not worth it it.
Of course this depends on whether you can afford this or not.
But overall I feel like this improved my relationship with people.
This is probably one of the most important things I wish that I could get across to roommates I've had with ASD.
The types of things that they open up to me about is concerning. I've told them that they shouldn't be opening up to people about all the incredibly personal things that they've told me. There are some things you shouldn't tell anyone, unless maybe you're married.
I don't know if they think they can just tell me anything because I've been friendly with them, but they really need to think twice about how many people they're opening up to.
I don't have a problem with knowing, but if they're opening up to me easily them I assume it doesn't take that much to open up to anyone else.
I've been screamed-at, in an office-lobby, by my supervisor, for not recognizing people by their faces.
I'm face-blind, and only know that because of that series-of-incidents.
I didn't know, until my mid-30's, that ANYBODY ANYWHERE could ever recognize people just by their faces.
Absolutely stunning.
I recognize people by their being where they're supposed to be, the way they move, their voice, their clothing, all together, and usually I can recognize 'em, if I've seen 'em recently-enough.
That normals can recognize people only by seeing a face??
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