As a cis dude who's asexual, I've gotten weird questions from straight dude bros... one asked me if I "had to be super careful" to not get myself pregnant. Honest question coming from a person our country's education system has failed.
I have had more than a few girls ask if they can hold my dick while I piss out of curiosity and not for sexual reasons. Most of them seemed to have thought it would have kick like a firehose. I can assure you: That only happens after I've had a large soda during a 3 hour movie in a theatre.
Years ago there was a profile on PoF that would hit me up every couple of months asking if they could castrate me. (I'm a trans woman)
It was weird, they weren't pushy or aggressive, more just, "Hey, you don't want them, right? Seems like a win win." Sometimes I'd play along and ask questions and stuff, but they wouldn't say much, and never actually made any effort to meet up.
I haven't thought about them in years, hahaha, but seeing your question brought it all back.
Depends on the kind of seat too. If they're thinner ones it's harder to avoid, especially if you're leaning forwards. It's not hard with normal wider seats for me, the actual reason I have a seat cushion for my bike is to protect my ass when the terrain is rough.
I'd love to see the data on the "age 30 and up" because the people I interact with have the worldly knowledge and emotional maturity of a teenager far more often than not.
I suspect that data is out of date, from before the reddit exodus.
Edit: and perhaps women are keeping a low profile, but from casual observation I see more trans women than cis women on lemmy, which is insane when you think about the demographics involved.
I dunno, I figured it was a response to seeing the “do you have any questions FOR the opposite gender” thread. And it seemed an appropriate response. THAT question might be considered stereotypical Reddit drivel. This one is more interesting, simply because it’s a step removed.
Heyo, run of the mill cis girl here, middle age (that pains me to say it but it’s reality), we’re here. And I’ve honestly noticed the demographic being a lot of mid-30’s and up here. Not exclusively of course but more so than Reddit
Is there a difference between white and caucasian?
“Caucasian,” the classification from when we thought race was biological rather than social, referred broadly to people from Europe, and some from Northern Africa, and parts of the Middle East and West Asia. Caucasoid was one of three, alongside Mongoloid and Negroid.
Now in North American English “Caucasian” refers to people who are generally white and from European descent. It is sometimes seen as having a more polite or scientific connotation than “white.”
It can also refer to people from the Caucasus region.
Honestly with how oblivious most men are to the amount of work the average mother does, this is not a weird or stupid question. Insensitive, sure. Traditional gender roles still spill over into conversation, especially with older folks. The absolute least a father can do is aim to carry an equal share of the load of having children. The bitter reality is that this does not happen nearly as much as it should, hence comments like these.
I think it's acceptable if the mother isn't working and the father is basically the breadwinner. Which, y'know, used to be economically viable. But if both parents are sharing the financial load then they should share the parental load as well. And even if a dad is working, he should still be a dad on the weekends and after work. All children need a good father figure.
Yeah. It's awful how when society changes to give women more responsibility (financially) that the idea of them looking solely after the children is still expected, even though they are having to work and it dates back to when they were housekeepers.
Am I missing something? Aren't the people asking the man if he's giving mom a break the ones perpetuating the "moms are expected to raise children" stereotype? The guy in this scenario is simply doing father things, it's the assumptive person asking the question that's hanging onto old beliefs.
I'm all for fathers being fathers, and I think anyone who bothers to take their kid to the park on off times is probably in the same boat. It comes across as more than a bit condescending to have some random person imply that this activity isn't one that's normal for your family.
Yeah, that's exactly what's happening. People seem to be misconstruing my comment as endorsement of gender stereotypes? I don't know.
The assumption that the father is just giving mom a break is part of a systemic issue, that by and large women are still expected to bear the bulk of the burden of childcare. Older generations are much more likely to ask that assumptive question as they still see it as the norm. Hell, some families in my own personal circle fit that stereotype like a glove, to the detriment of the mother's mental health.
Depends on the situation. I'm working and my wife is currently a SAHM because the little one is quite tiny indeed. When I get home after work I take the baby off her hands for a while because I KNOW my wife had a more exhausting day than I did because of the little demonsangels. And anything the 3yo needs, I'll be there for her so she doesn't bother mom with everything.
Sometimes it does feel like I'm babysitting or giving her a break, because she for sure spends way more time and energy on them throughout the day.
Ok, you just struck a nerve here, that shit drive me crazy.
I'm a first time father of a 6 months old and I love him to death. I want to spend every waking moment with him so I take up as much "baby works" as possible since his birth. Bath, feeding, changing, play, exercise, going outside, doctor appointments, I do all those things.
And EVERY SINGLE GODDAMN TIME I got asked "where's the mother?", "Is she busy today so you're babysitting?", "Why you have to babysit today?"
HAVE TO? BITCH! This is my fuckin pleasure, I'm craving it, I'm addicted to this little poop machine. GTFO!
I want to yell at their face "THIS IS MY SON, I LOVE HIM, CAN'T I JUST BE WITH HIM!?"
My wife admitted that I do a much better job taking care of our baby. I am kind of "extra careful" type of person and I've been taking care of foster newborn kittens for a decade, and believe it or not but some skills does transfer over. Infants is basically function on pure instinct, and I'm damn good at anticipate it. I can accurately translate my son's cry 90% of the time. He has 3 distinct cries for hungry, sleep, and diaper change, then later another "i'm bored" cry.
My wife would often call me on the phone to have me listen to his crying and ask what'd he want.
I'm a damn good father and I'm proud to take care of him. I don't have to do it, I GET TO do it!
This question actually came from another dude, but similar energy: I have a deep voice, so they asked, if it's relaxing to feel those bass vibrations in my body whenever I talk.
My mum does like to tell the story that when I was in like first or second grade, she attended some stage show that we were doing. And when I said something on stage, another mum whispered to her "Wow! What a deep voice that boy has!".
I do also remember not actually having that big of a voice change during puberty, so yeah, that is perhaps closer to the truth than one might expect. 🙃
You know those anime girls who try to be obnoxiously cute, where they raise their voice to a high pitch? Then off screen, they're back to their regular tone?
For people with high pitched voices... Is that a choice?
Basically, when you vibrate your vocal cords, then depending on the frequency, it can either resonate with your chest cavity or with your head cavity. The chest cavity is larger, so it resonates at a deeper frequency and the resonance is louder, which is why most of us use chest voice while talking normally.
But yeah, as you go up, there's a bit of a range where you have to put more force into making your vocal cord vibrations heard, because at those frequencies, it does not resonate well with either chest or head cavity.
And then beyond that, you get into the range where it resonates well with the head cavity, so it's again not as taxing anymore to speak in that range (although still usually more taxing than chest voice, because it just resonates less loudly).
So, even with my deep chest choice, I do also have relatively good range into the upper registers, because well, my head cavity isn't particularly larger than others'.
But I have heard that some people cannot tap into their head voice, not without vocal training anyways.
Sometimes I get a particular kind of headache. Listening to loud music with heavy bass can help ease the headache. Singing along to my playlist of songs I might sing at karaoke from my belly loudly also can help ease the pain a bit. So yes, I guess it can be relaxing.
In high school a female classmate asked me: "Do you masturbate?", and I answered "I don't need to answer you that." Well, I was actually uncomfortable by the fact that most people my age likely did, but I actually did not because I found masturbating disgusting. I thought they would think I was too odd for not masturbating lol
If you would have said "no" I'm sure they just wouldn't have believed you. I was asked that question and said no because I was embarrassed. They didn't believe me.
in 6th grade we'd go around asking the girls "do you masticate?". most would answer indignantly "no, that's disgusting!". then we'd ask them why they swallow ther food whole, like a snake.
I got asked that by a gaggle of 18 yo boys while I was waiting on an elevator in boot camp, trying to embarrass me or something since I was quiet. I looked at them weirdly and said, "Of, course", like they had just asked if I breathed air. The elevator opened just then and I walked in and though I didn't get to see their faces, they didn't get in. It's small victories over bullies like that that made me realize bullies are weak AF.
Many women seem to assume that penis and balls are attached actually between the legs, just like where their vaginas are. They are surprised, if they're told, the whole assembly is actually more "at the front".
The reverse is also true, BTW. A lot of boys struggle finding the vagina because from their perspective it's waaay too low.
We barely understand our own bodies, it's not surprising that we have problems with other sexes bodies.
Hahaha, my second long term girlfriend was a bit...naive... tbh... We've been naked many times, but when we first went to a public sauna(which is textile-free here)she asked me exactly that.
Maybe it was the sagging old man's balls or something.
But she was somewhat shocked.
We were competing at who could smash into the wall with their bike at the highest speed. You know, just smashing into it with the front wheel, coming to a sudden stop.
Ouch.
For the benefits of the lurkers - this one comes up quite a bit - balls sit way higher / further forward than you think they do. All our stuff pretty much hangs off the pubic bone, and dangles down from there. We have to lean way forward to actually squish anything from underneath.
You know how when you think about breathing, you start to "think" about breathing? How it moves in and out of the body? And then you learn all other weird things about breathing?
Do you really want to understand ball science? To understand where things move and go around and flex?
Why I'm trying to say is sometimes, ignorance is bliss.
Most of us don't need mirrors though, we simply look down. And there are many forms of lesbian bedroom activity, the most common being using fingers in lieu of the sixth limb men have.
For real, does the entirety of a sexual encounter consist of penis-in-vagina for him? I prefer there to be like an hour of foreplay and I'm a dude. I mean I could go right away too, but the feeling is very, very different for myself too, not just my partner.
“How do you sleep on your stomach with your breasts?”
Natural breast tissue moves to the side so it's often not an issue, however for women with larger breasts or for women with dense breast tissue, it can still be painful or uncomfortable.
For women with breast implants over the pectoral muscle, the implants don't slide to the side and so it would be quite uncomfortable for them to lie or sleep on their stomach.