No I don’t. And when I think of those things they are considered negative. Despite my own thoughts never feeling normal or normative.
Despite the fact that I never have a societal norm that keeps me going… I instead find my own norm and keep going… it’s weird I never seek to pull society down I try to move up…
I don’t really agree with this post, but I’m trying to move forward so who knows…
You mean like having movers coming in a few weeks but not getting off my ass for the past five days to start putting my life into boxes to move halfway across the country? Cuz it feels like you might be referring to my having movers coming in a few weeks but me not getting off my ass for the past five days to start putting my life into boxes to move halfway across the country.
If you live in the states, Libby is a lifesaver. It's an online audiobook thing for libraries. You can use your library card to check out audiobooks through the app. And if you're unable to use Libby for some reason, I've heard mobilism has a lot of audiobooks for free
Yes. I tell anyone I can at work about the public library and how you can use Libby or Hoopla to get free books. Some audio books for those not wanting to read. It is a great asset.
Whoops that's just an interview with the author, though may be useful to some, I shall keep looking.
Audiobooks.com has a 30 day free trial, and this is one of the books they have, but still not good enough.....
Bookey.com also has a free trial and this audiobook. I'm failing here as a pirate. Unfortunately, I haven't pirated any audiobooks so I don't know where to look
i take it you tried the archive? There's usually a rouge upload on there somewhere, if not, some torrenting or filesharing service WILL have it, though it's less accessible to the average person.
Will give a look tonight, my laptop died but I have a rpi4 running that might be enough to sail the high seas again for this old sailor. It's been a looooong time since but I will find my path once again.
an rpi is definitely more than enough, though you might want something more than an SD card, just use a VPN and or do it anonymously and be safe out there my friend. The usual rules apply, although most of the internet is better now.
Also my instance dbzer0 has a piracy sub with a rather good resource for getting into it if you aren't immediately familiar with it. Good stuff on there for the average "just interested in how it works" individual, not looking to commit any crimes, because we are good and law abiding people, who respect the law and IP rights.
I run the pie with a Kingston 100Gig ssd with a usb adaptor.
I used to be torrenting all the time and can adapt to new software and techniques easily. I also played with tech all my life from basic electronics, computers hardware and software etc... Lately I kind of don't watch movies and have Tidal for music so I just don't use PC's much other than playing YouTube on my TV before bed.
Cool, then I guess you'll just do nothing until you die, and blame everybody but yourself.
You are capable of making stupid comments on lemmy. You are also capable of reading a book. Stop making excuses for yourself and be better.
Edit: Oh right. I'm on the adhd channel. The kings/queens of doing absolutely nothing, bitching about it, then getting mad when things get worse, have spoken.
Fuck off, you think you know me ?
You would have not made it having been through half of my life. I keep fighting in hopes that things get better and KNOW my shortcomings. If you think I haven't tried reading books you are way off track. I have had a huge collection of books and LOVED reading but the fact is it takes me over a year to read a normal book as I fall asleep after two pages and have to reread every line multiple times and of course I don't remember the line I just read but you think that everyone is the way you are and assume. I guess you think I'm a lazy fuck who never tries anything to get better do you ? Fuck off and goodbye!
The only possible reason you'd be this triggered by a stranger is that you see yourself in them and you don't like what you see, so I recommend you start by taking your own advice.
You're equating reading to writing, which are distinct enough skill sets that they deserve separate conversations. I think this is less a matter of willpower and more about actual capability.
Making assumptions about the way other people feel or think is unproductive and unnecessary. Maybe you want them to be mad, to fight back, but you're just some words on a screen right now, so it only comes off as being an asshole.
Try speed reading. Like faster than is comfortable. I was the same way til I realized my casual reading pace is too slow to keep me interested. I still struggle to get interested but once I am, zooooom
Being interested is not my problem, the more I want to read something the harder it is to not drift in my mind and have to restart a few lines before. And after a few pages I just start to nod and fall asleep. It's hard to describe. The worst is even if I power through a book I can't remember it the next day. Some events might bring back part of the story in my mind but it's never enough to even make a quote. It's the same for movies although I dont fall asleep I can't remember it the next day. I hate that, and it's not like I have no memory at all I will remember stupid shit other did or where they left stuff etc but the more I need or want to remember something the more I risk forgetting.
Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. It's harder to drift if you can fully saturate your thoughts with the book. The moments where your brain already understands where a sentence is going, that's when it gets bored and starts thinking of something else while your reading speed catches up. This made a huge difference for me and counterintuitively it significantly improved my reading comprehension and reduced those moments of getting to the bottom of the page, not knowing what you just read. It's like a disconnect between reading the words and processing them. It also just makes it less tedious to reread a section, since you're blasting through it so much faster. Seriously, give it a shot.
There's speed reading apps that will flash the words at a faster pace so you have to keep up. Just bump up the speed til it's a little uncomfortable.
I have been reading out loud to myself for a few years.
It is slower, but it really adds to your active vocabulary. And actually my reading articulation out loud has increased manifold. And it keeps my interest.
"Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything" by BJ Fogg explores how small behavioral changes can lead to significant transformations in one's life. Fogg, a behavior scientist, introduces a method for creating lasting habits by making them tiny and easy to accomplish.
Key Points:
Behavior Model:
B = MAP: Behavior (B) happens when Motivation (M), Ability (A), and a Prompt (P) converge at the same moment. To change behavior, adjust these three elements.
Tiny Habit Recipe:
Identify a tiny behavior you want to incorporate into your routine.
Attach this new behavior to an existing routine (Anchor).
Celebrate immediately after doing the behavior to create positive reinforcement.
Focus on Small Changes:
Instead of making drastic changes, Fogg advocates for starting with tiny, manageable actions. Over time, these small actions accumulate and lead to significant changes.
Celebration:
A crucial part of the Tiny Habits method is celebrating your success, no matter how small. This positive reinforcement encourages repetition and helps solidify the new habit.
Ability and Simplicity:
Simplifying the desired behavior increases the likelihood of success. If something feels too difficult, break it down into even smaller steps.
Motivation:
While motivation can fluctuate, designing tiny habits that fit easily into your routine helps ensure consistency, regardless of your motivation levels.
Behavior Design:
Fogg provides a systematic approach to designing behaviors that stick, emphasizing experimentation and iteration to find what works best for the individual.
By focusing on tiny, achievable changes and celebrating small wins, Fogg's method aims to make habit formation easier and more sustainable.
Just for interest, this is the latest model chatgpt 4o, seems to have focussed more on the emotions and the simplicity.
"Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything" by BJ Fogg is a practical guide that explains how to make lasting changes in behavior by starting small. The core idea is that by focusing on tiny, manageable habits, individuals can create significant and sustainable changes in their lives.
Key Concepts:
Behavior Design Framework: Fogg introduces the Behavior Model, which asserts that behavior is a result of motivation, ability, and prompts converging at the same moment. For a behavior to occur, there must be sufficient motivation, the ability to perform the behavior, and a prompt to trigger it.
Start Small: To create lasting habits, start with tiny behaviors that are easy to do, such as flossing one tooth or doing two push-ups. This minimizes resistance and makes it easier to maintain consistency.
Anchor New Habits: Attach new habits to existing routines. For instance, after brushing your teeth (an existing habit), perform a tiny habit like flossing one tooth. This linkage helps in remembering and performing the new habit.
Celebrate Successes: Immediately celebrate after completing a tiny habit, no matter how small it is. This positive reinforcement helps wire the new behavior into your brain, making it more likely to stick.
Iterate and Expand: Once the tiny habit is established, gradually increase its complexity or add new tiny habits. This approach allows for scaling up behavior change in a manageable way.
Focus on Positive Emotions: Fogg emphasizes the importance of feeling good during and after performing the habit. Positive emotions reinforce the habit, making it more likely to become automatic over time.
Practical Applications:
Habit Stacking: Create chains of tiny habits that build on each other throughout the day.
Behavior Swapping: Replace unwanted behaviors with positive tiny habits.
Tiny Habit Recipes: Develop specific, actionable plans for incorporating tiny habits into daily life.
By following these principles, Fogg argues that individuals can create powerful, lasting changes in their behavior without relying on sheer willpower or motivation alone.
Is the book and its methods intended for neurodivergent people? If not, it is important to be aware that it may have limited use to people with ADHD as our dopamine signaling in the executive function parts of our prefrontal cortex is all kinds of fucked.
That said, I'm ecstatic to read that you found it helpful and really appreciate your correct characterization of one of the maladaptive coping mechanisms that we often try to use.
A lot of symptoms of ADHD happen to the general population as well, but in people with ADHD they may happen at such frequency and/or intensity that they become debilitating in the current system.
For the last 2 months I started to consider about going to a doctor because I cannot know if my inability to keep doing tasks or focus on them is because of the enviroment at my home is being harmful to my mind health or if I could have ADHD or similar. Maybe it's the moment to do it, but it doesn't feel confortable for me to ask a doctor.
What the others said, if possible, go see a doctor. I have depression but I'm subscribed to this channel because it's interesting for me to learn about symptoms and ideas how others deal or cope with them. ADHD and depression share many similarities. ( I will definitively try to learn from the mentioned book tiny habits)
I went to a doctor when I felt really really bad. But it was one of the best decisions I have ever made, because I got a treatment and can even go to a therapy. And if you shouldn't suffer from ADHD or depression - even better!
Me all the time, but after getting medicated it's a little less overwhelming and I can better calm down about it and slowly chew through the lists of stuff that needs to be done... Slowly... But any progress is better than no progress at all so I'll take it as a massive win.
The only use those types of thoughts have in anyone's life, is to remind you of something you value completing.
Thats it. Once you've had the thought, let the next thought follow just be - Yup.
Maybe you do it, maybe not. But putting that pressure on yourself isn't serving the purpose of doing that thing, in fact, it almost always does the opposite.
So yes, Ideally, we'd have no motivation other than feeling the need to do a thing simply because its what need to do.
But its not like that, for anyone. Stop being so expectant of yourself, and instead just expect that kind of thought to come up, and then wave at it, and let it pass on by.
Right? It's like COVID laid bare all the injustices and bullshit of our society and social structures and all but destroyed any motivation to accomplish anything that I had. Things just seemed pointless cause the old myths are fucking lies and I'm tired of killing myself for others during the prime years of my life.
What do you do when your apathy is due, in part, to the world being a cesspool where a few have the most? It really sucks.
