It's a bit of a shame that ADD isn't a thing anymore, just dropping the H makes it a lot less misleading. The attention deficit part is broadly descriptive of my issues
I do find it odd that it settled into ADHD-I, ADHD-H and ADHD-C; the one that is primarily expressed through hyperactivity literally is called "Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder - Hyperactive".
Removing the H and using the subtypes would add clarity for sure.
While I have never defaulted to wondering if friends hated me, I do overthink every vague response from someone. Not in a negative way, just all the possibilities and implications that there could be.
Asking for clarification from non-friends does frequently end in them being annoyed by me. No Susan, I don't know what you are implying by pointing out someone's is wearing a green shirt.
Missing social cues is adhd related. Not understanding implied social cues is more autism related. Many people with one have the other so it can be hard to separate them.
Social cues primarily require prior knowledge of the person and the context to have meaning. Stating that something is a color with no additional context as to why that color has a meaning is confusing.
"Thst shirt is blue!"
Ok. I wonder if it is just a bold color, a team color, doesn't go with some other color they are wearing, or something else. A neurotypiczl person would probably just assume their first assumpton is correct but answer with a vague "It sure is!" they can both go on with their day whether they are on the same page or not.
The reason that this is my example is after having a lot of technical discussions that require shared understanding of details, it is apparent that the vast majority of people just assume they are on the same page when they are not. But they communicate in vsgue ways that don't cause issues as long as nobody checks to see if they really are on the same page.
So someone who is allistic is likely going to have very little issue with the "shirt is blue" and moving on with their day. Just because someone is allistic doesn't mean they are neurotypical, the common implication otherwise is just a pet peeve of mine.
The fact that the vagueness of the statement bothers you this much suggests to me that you are talking about an autistic more than adhd trait but ymmv.
Whether they're directly caused by an ADHD neurotype or not, all those things are associated with ADHD
To pick one at random, Rejection Sensitive Disphoria (RSD) is often found with people who have ADHD. People dealing with RSD often imagine rejection where none was intended. That includes reading negative feelings into text messages, conversations, etc.
(CAVEAT: I am not an expert. This is not my professional field. This is speculation from someone who has ADHD and is around ADHD kids)
I don't know if there's good research out there or not about RSD+ ADHD, but I suspect RSD is conditioned. Growing up with ADHD, you get a lot of negative feedback from people. You aren't paying attention well enough, you're often clumsy, you often say the wrong things at the wrong time, etc. With enough of that sort of feedback, developing negative self talk which turns into full RSD sounds like a natural outcome.
I don't really understand if this is a negative or positive experience, but I just wanted to add that like you said some of the things listed are common for many people without ADHD. But people with ADHD can relate to many or all of the things listed in the post, and it often irks them when people without ADHD talk about the disorder as something insignificant. Maybe you didn't mean to do that but it does seem to be insensitive. Thanks for understanding.
It's both negative and positive. I wasn't aware of that rule, so good job pointing it out to me.
I do have ADHD and I experience most/all of these, I just never thought they are all directly traceable to ADHD. What I thought - which perhaps wasn't clear - is that these are all distinct disorders, which are just as much out of one's control as ADHD, but which are not necessarily symptoms of ADHD itself.
I did preface with "I'm no expert", and I can see that I might be wrong. I'm happy to leave my comment up and let the downvotes and replies do their thing.
You're normally expected to have lifelong symptoms, but that doesn't mean you had to do badly in school.
You can constantly daydream, lose stuff and turn up late for everything and still ace tests, at least early on. It gets harder to get away with this later in life.
Wait you're telling me studying uninterruptedly for 15 hours a day with a focus that would make a jedi jealous for four weeks in a row and not being able to get yourself up to go to lectures the rest of the time isn't the normal way how people graduate best in class?
There's a ton of overlap between the two, to the point where if you have one you should subscribe to the others community because the memes will still be very relatable
just dropping in to say that as a clinician, most of what is posted in here is bullshit. it's actually pretty frustrating and ill probably have to unsub soon. for my own sanity.
I mean get assessed but dont take anything you see here seriously. ANYTHING.
Or perhaps clinicians are generally unfamiliar with the lived experience of ADHD. I'm diagnosed, and nothing any medical professional told me has helped jack shit so far.
Apparently to critisize what ADHD folks experience...
Rule 1. Clinician or not, just because it effects other people, doesn't mean it doesn't effect those with ADHD. We're not doctors, we're people with lived experiences that always tell people to get checked by a doctor if they're affected by these symptoms in a way that it effects their lives.
Sometimes I actively decide not to do certain stuff at night bcz I don't know when to quit and go to sleep. It ends up making me tired during the day bcz I don't go to bed on time.
