No dude, the first guy wants an easy answer to how shit he feels, because an easy answer means an easy solution. Generally speaking, people don’t like having problems that are entirely outside of their own power to fix.
The second person doesn’t want the deficiency, they already have it and have been struggling with it for a long time and what they wish for is love and support from people, to have their struggle validated.
It’s like the difference between a successful day of back breaking work when you’re a slave, vs a day of back breaking work when you’re working for your own benefit. The validation of the self-work comes from the benefits you reap because of it. There is no validation for the exact same work if you’re a slave, because you didn’t choose to do the work and you don’t benefit either. A little empathy and respect from your fellow man for the good work you did that you were forced to endure for no benefit to yourself would be the only solace you can hope to receive and isn’t really a whole lot to ask for grand scheme of things.
Yeah guy 2 wants “attention” support but he doesn’t want a problem so that he can get attention support. He already has the problem and simply wishes he had support from others. He also doesn’t want to be a victim. He already feels like a victim of his circumstance. The support from others would make him feel less like a victim and more like somebody who has overcome adversity.
It was folic acid for me. Turns out me and my family don't get the full affect of vitamins or medicines. After some genetic testing we are all taking it and are all feeling a lot better and our meds are actually working.
It's nuts how simple it was to turn us all around.
Magnesium for me. I don’t know why but it makes my brain work better. I feel horribly anxious, depressed, and intolerant of others when I forget to take it for more than three days or so.
It changed my life, seriously. I mentioned it to my doctor with one of her residents present. The resident had recently finished a psych rotation and said that she learned that most people are deficient.
The doctor's best chelated magnesium works even better for me than citrate did, although citrate is easier to find in person if you're opposed to ordering it from Amazon.
My wife started giving me her electrolyte mix and feeding me sardines everyday and I can't tell you how much better I feel
It has magnesium in it, but I think it's the particular form of potassium in it that's hitting my deficiency. It tastes like potatoes and it's.... I guess it's not bad. Like drinking starch water.
Shout-out to my wife who i'd probably whither away and die without.
Fun site I just showed my partner. He's been having ADHD flair up, insomnia, twitching and loss of appetite. For me, it helps regulate stress and anxiety. Low magnesium levels are so common. The world could be a better place if our bodies actually received/processed what we need to thrive.
Prescribed meth that allows me to wake up every morning not feeling like a hot bag of ass and let's me follow my to do list somewhat easily for most of the morning and afternoon without wanting to take naps every couple hours for me.
D has got to be one of the easiest to take. No side effects unless you take a stupid amount. Generally pretty cheap for a large quantity. Numerous studies have linked vitamin D intake to reduced death from all causes. Of course there are some that discount that effect, but it’s not gonna hurt if you do take it. Might want to give it a shot if you aren’t already.
I just started eating more greens and drinking whole milk, as suggested by my doctor because it was just a slight deficiency. I just haven't been to the doctor since to see if it's helping.
Grab the pills when you get a chance. The whole milk only has enough vitamin d to offset the amount used by your body to use the calcium in the milk, so it's net zero additional vitamin d in your diet to drink fortified vitamin D milk. If you're like me, you'll feel a significant difference.
This was vitamin D for me... When I finally got checked I was at a 6... The lowest you're supposed to go is like 40. I could hardly chew food I was so exhausted. Winter is still hard for me, but I take a crap load of vitamin D and it helps a bit
I know this exact experience. During university, I think I tested down asking 9ng/dL. My digestive tract nearly stopped. It was awful. Having ADHD, I sometimes forget to take my vitamin D for extended periods, which, while not as severe now that I'm close to the equator, does exacerbate everything.
Store bought multivitamins aren't even guaranteed to rule it out. For a myriad of different reasons, you can still have deficiencies even if you take a multivitamin. So, maybe it's worth a try, but if it doesn't work, that doesn't mean there couldn't still be a deficiency.
That's basically what therapy is. The lack of vitamin is the damage you received in your childhood that you just thought was normal.
Then you actually recount the experience to a therapist and they tell you how not normal that is and help you to recognize the fact that you had to go through that without support and that the way you are is because you had to cope to support yourself to survive when no one else was there for you.
Once you know it then you can tell all your friends and get them to awe at your seemingly inhuman perseverance.
Living through trauma isn't really a super power. And I wouldn't wish what happened to me on anyone. In fact, I don't usually share what happened to me with anyone but my therapist and my wife.
I've found many shared experiences when I thought my experience was unique. Sharing my personal traumas with people in my life has both helped them to understand me as well as sometimes help them also. In the same ways I have felt alone I have helped other to realize they are not alone and often that can be the first step to them getting real help.
For me this was ADHD meds. I was always lacking, but ever since I self-prescribed darknet amphetamines I'm much happier. Therapy wasn't shit for me, I'm glad it helps others but I never had any trauma and I feel like it's too over-prescribed instead of drugs that fix the issue.
It's hard to know this by yourself. I'm assuming you've been through the process but I wouldn't want others to assume they could self-assess this at all - it's not possible.
and I feel like it's too over-prescribed instead of drugs that fix the issue.
I think generally the sentiment is that america over-relies on drugs to fix mental health problems. But I can understand that if you have a chemical imbalance or need drugs that it would seem like there are a lot of hoops to jump through before you get there.
That's fair, in the UK there's the opposite problem, getting a script for drugs that fix the issue is nigh-impossible, instead you get told to go attend CBT sessions for a broken arm
That last paragraph. It just shows that your therapist sucks. Or you aren't doing therapy right. But oh my, I'm sure you're now walking around telling everyone how therapy saved you and how they all should do it to.
Well, I had a blood test because I was having heart palpitations and under extreme stress, so not exactly “just collapsed”. But they found I have hypothyroidism, and life’s much better and much easier with the medication.
Turns out you’re not supposed to feel tired after doing nothing, sleep 12 hours, then wake up tired…
Annoyingly this must’ve been an issue for years, but I was raised to “shut up and get on with it”, and told the problem was that I’m “just lazy” :/
Thank you, I think it was a mix of anxiety/depression and life circumstances. The stress causes me not to eat enough in the first half of the day and I would feel very low energy.
Since then I've started a new job, moved across the country, got back into the gym, and that reset has helped a lot.
This was me except it was narcolepsy. Which isn’t as fun because it’s incurable and also largely untreatable. Most medications and aids are supportive, not corrective.
Mine was noticed because I have a multinodular goider. I asked about potential issues with it a couple times over the years and was always told I just needed to lose weight till the doctor finally noticed it in my early 20s. Who knew it was a lot easier to be active and control your appetite when your metabolism is actually working and you don't feel like you always wanna crawl into bed?
You normally will get it after puberty, pregnancy, or menopause(at least with what I have, which is hashimotos thyroiditis, an autoimmune disease. Not sure about others) so, if it's similar you likely developed it during puberty like myself and didn't realize it or notice the changes because you assumed it was normal.
