The thing about figuring out ADHD traits as an adult is that you have to scrape aside all the coping methods and strategies you've developed just to survive .
People who aren't ADHD typically don't start packing for a trip days before they leave.
People who aren't ADHD typically don't have such strong anxiety about deadlines that they finish projects WAY ahead of time JUST IN CASE.
On a day with an appointment at 4pm, people who aren't ADHD typically don't get stuck in waiting mode all day long struggling to do anything else.
They might have a diary and a to do list, but they won't totally lose track without them.
People who aren't ADHD typically might not like doing boring things, but they don't have to trick themselves with strategies (eg unable to do the dishes unless listening to an audiobook)
ADHD adults can seem to have it together, but the cost in anxiety is hidden and high.