Speaking of joking.
When I was young, pretty often when I wanted to make a joke, I was too embarrassed to do that personally, so instead of joking directly, I’d add “as one of my friends says…”, or “as I’ve read recently…”(obviously, there were no friend and no book, it was just some snarky comment I came up with and desperately wanted to drop). I didn’t do that with serious things, it was just a way to slip in a joke - because doing it openly felt too daring for some reason.
When I got older, I used to do it less and less often, and now (almost?) don’t do that (probably?), but I still don’t quite understand why I was: what it was actually for, why did I need, what it was supposed to solve.
Is this also some #neurodivergent thing? Something related to RSD? Part of autistic masking? Or just my own weird thing? @actuallyautistic
@olena@actuallyautistic I've done this. I also say things like "you might already know..." or "perhaps someone told you..." ahead of information or news, which I think is a way of lowering expectations or making it seem okay to raise a particular subject.
@Autisticaurochs
I used to say "do you know this old joke about the..." before telling jokes too. Phrased as a question it felt much less intrusive. @olena@actuallyautistic
Sounds like a defensive masking thing. I didn’t do it, but had to be feeling confident to date making what I thought was a witty remark. Still do. Usually such remarks are well received, but often with quite a high level of surprise. Susan said that?
@olena@actuallyautistic
manufacturing support and consensus, I like it 😘
you invented bots before anybody 😀
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(seriously, if that's what it takes, do it ❤️ )