@OtterForce@EVDHmn@catswhocode@actuallyautistic@actuallyadhd > That internalized at some point and became I can’t do things I’m not good at.
Observations over my life, thanks to a Very Spiky Skill Set Assigned At Birth™️ that made quite a few popular activities essentially impossible (not merely more difficult than for most people):
"Getting good at X" is a trap for most X out there and for most people contemplating doing X. Even in circumstances where skill levels are highly relevant, "good at X" can look like anything from "reasonably experienced with X" to "highly skilled at X" to "completely world-class at X", and it's very easy to end up with totally unreasonable expectations.
"Getting to a point where you enjoy the activity for its own sake" is a much better target to envision.
Spiky Skill Sets mean having quite a few activities where "getting to the point where you enjoy the activity for its own sake" may require more skill than you can reasonably expect to get. (This is not a disguised version of "getting good at it." It's based on subjective satisfaction, not some measure of skill level deemed to be "good" by some criterion. But many activities do require some baseline level of skill to obtain that satisfaction.)
Pay attention to the concept of opportunity costs in this context. Be completely willing to walk away from activities (especially recreational ones) that are starting to look like the ones described in 3. above, and give yourself permission to focus on ones that look like something you are more likely to be able to become enjoyably skilled at.